My Story – Rose Mordi & DSAN

“I was in my late thirties when I had my daughter, Awele Maria Mordi on 29^th July 1987; it was not an easy pregnancy for me. I was given all sorts of reasons why I could be feeling the way I did during the pregnancy. I was told it could be a boy or maybe I was carrying twins.”

Like she had feared that all was not well, she asked to see her baby when she regained consciousness. But she was not allowed to see the baby until the fourth day, and when she did, she became hysterical.
“They eventually brought my baby to me on the fourth day. I was having my siesta when they brought her and when I woke up and saw her, I screamed. I knew immediately that she had Down syndrome. I was familiar with the condition because in my previous ante-natal classes abroad, we had been taught about all these abnormalities. I called the attention of the nurse and she tried to reassure me that the baby was okay but I was not convinced.

Later on, they said they were going to carry out tests to determine the type of DS she had. (There are three types of DS – Trisomy 21, Mosaic and Translocation); the hospital also promised to get a physiotherapist to work on her neck which was very weak. Nothing was ever done by the hospital. In order to take care of the baby, I had to take a long leave of absence from work. It was during that period that I got in touch with the Down’s syndrome Association in the UK. I was given some counseling and resources. My daughter is the better for it today because I was able to do something early”.

In order to take care of her daughter, Awele, properly, she had to be constantly in touch with the UK DSA. Later on, she was advised to start a similar organisation in Nigeria to help families because there were lots of enquiries coming from Nigeria. She eventually did that  and the association was formally inaugurated on the 4th of December, 2001. She says the association started with a handful of parent members in her sitting room. The association has about 300 registered members with over 30 children coming in regularly.

She reveals that the establishment of the association became necessary because no such association previously existed in the whole of West Africa. The only one in Africa is in South Africa. She says that parents with children with the condition need to come out to learn how to manage their children’s condition. She also says that our society needs to be educated and awareness programme carried out to eliminate the stigma attached to the condition; such stigmatization is unnecessary and unjustified because these children thrive well on love and constructive affection.

“I recall that when I had my baby, people who saw her made all sorts of uncomplimentary remarks and suggestions. There is this belief that children with D.S. are snakes or demons and should be thrown away into a forest or a stream. I remember someone saying, ‘So you have this kind of baby; they are snakes!’ I just responded that if God in His infinite wisdom deemed it fit to give me a snake for a child, then I will take care of her as all living things were created by God. Such superstition is still rife because just a couple of years ago my sister’s friend nearly succumbed to it. She was asked to go and throw her DS baby in the stream. It was my sister who prevailed on her and enlightened her that her baby was not evil but a precious gift from God.”

Mrs. Mordi however, admits that running the association has been quite challenging; the greatest challenge has been funding. Being a charity, members are not expected to pay for services being rendered but costs are incurred on a daily basis to run the Resource centre.

“We render a number of services and we have various professionals employed to do this effectively. We have the Early Intervention programme (EIP), which is designed to ‘catch them young’, so that the condition is easier to manage as they grow older. Given their condition, they are predisposed to some other ailments. About 60-70% of people with DS have a heart condition that is why many of them die early. Diabetes, thyroid problems, Alzheimer’s and a generally low immune system are conditions associated with people born with DS. Thus they constantly require medical attention and we try to do that at the centre. We have volunteer medical professionals coming in to carry out checks but when there is need for major medical procedures, we find ourselves unable to handle such because of lack of funds.

“Due to their learning disability, we have professionals in that area. We carry out programmes on numeracy, literacy and vocational training. The programme is very much similar to the Montessori system whereby teaching each child is individually tailored towards the ability of the child. At this moment, we are unable to carry out effectively all the programme because we are constrained by space, structures and funds. It costs us approx. =N=600,000 monthly to run the centre. Most of our members are indigent; they cannot afford to pay for the services we render. We need a bus to convey the children because some of them cannot even afford transport money to come to the center.

Our aim is to see that children with DS are adequately taken care of so that they can develop their potentials optimally and be integrated into the society. My vision for the association is to have  proper structures in the six geo-political regions of Nigeria, which will incorporate a medical unit, a school/vocational centre, recreational/residential quarters and other necessary facilities.”

Talking about her own experience, Mrs Mordi says she has coped fairly well because of the knowledge that she has acquired over time about the condition. “My daughter got integrated into the family quite early and was brought up like her other sibling. She is fairly independent as she does everything by herself and is quite assertive. She cooks fairly well and is does shopping independently. She travels without a chaperone.”

Mrs Mordi advises other parents to bring their children out as they are capable of achieving a lot. In the developed countries, many of them are computer wizards and very talented , particularly in the arts. “A number of people with DS work at the UK DSA office and other parts of the developed countries. Thus the society needs to give them a chance to express themselves and fulfill their potentials.”
Mrs. Mordi also says that the association is a membership organization and anyone can join  as it is not restricted to families of people with DS. The association needs a lot of volunteers, supporters, patrons and people who wish to give scholarship to our indigent members.

People born with Down syndrome are predisposed to various medical conditions that require early intervention. In a country like Nigeria where provision of primary health care is almost non-existent, our association (in conjunction with our partners), aims to put up a functional medical unit  this year to take care of minor medical  needs of people with Down syndrome and other learning disabilities. In 2007, our association was able to sponsor two of our children to India for corrective heart surgery. This year, we intend to sponsor about three of the children on our waiting list for similar surgery overseas and also construct a well equipped resource centre with residential facilities.

Everyone can be of help by donating, volunteering or supporting the work of the association in one way or the other. The association has a functional website (www.dsanigeria.org/ email:info@dsanigeria.org). Donations could be made on-line or sent directly to the head office in Lagos.